The Simple Life: Don’t Be Its Slave

The Simple Life: Don’t Be Its Slave

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I love the simple life. I bet you do, too. But here’s the thing—no matter what you or I do, our “simple lives” aren’t ever going to be the simple lives of 100ish years ago. Want to take a guess at why?

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Okay, I’ll tell you. It’s because I have two bathrooms in my house.

Dude. Two bathrooms.

Have you ever stopped to think about how crazy it is that you can have two bathrooms in a house? In the grand scheme of things, it hasn’t been that long since people were treking out to the outhouse.

Want to know a few other crazy things that are different from 100ish years ago?

My two kids have their own rooms with their own beds.

I have a heated vehicle that I can drive ten miles to town when my sons have confirmation class.

I can dry clothes in a dryer if I don’t have time to line dry them.

Just think about all that for a second.

Think about all those things we have, but completely take for granted. Things like power tools, cars, chest freezers, coffee pots that run all day, and ovens that heat to exactly 350 degrees.

I mean, forget about things like the Minute Clinic and drive-thru coffee shops—we’re a luxurious world ahead of our Genuine Simple Living Relatives of Ages Past just by having internet to read this post.

What we call the simple life now? It’s way different than Laura Ingalls had.

Each of the little things that are part of our normal—the things so ingrained and common to us that we don’t even think about them—changes us. Let’s be honest: we’re living in a world that is so far removed from what was behind the simple ways of days past.

Our simple life is different because we want to do it. We don’t have to do it.

And that, my friends, is a huge difference.

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Attention homesteaders: the simple life is meant to inspire, relax, and clarify our existence. The simple life was never meant to make us its slave. 

You don't have to do everything from scratch. I promise. Read this if you're feeling like a failure because you've got one foot in modern times and the other in the simple life.


Our simple life is safe. We pick and choose our simple.

It’s fun to see what we can do and how long we could do it for. But if we get too busy to bake bread or get too attached to that chicken we were supposed to butcher, we can just head to the local grocery store for some store-bought whatever and not tell anyone about it.

I know. You might be thinking Okay, Amy. Why are you even bringing this up?

Friends, the simple life is not all or nothing.

Attention homesteaders: the simple life is meant to inspire, relax, and clarify our existence. The simple life was never meant to make us its slave. 

I bring it up because somewhere there is someone feeling the itch to move towards a more simple life, but she doesn’t feel like it’s worth it. She knows can’t do everything she thinks she has to do to fit into the almighty category of Simple Lifer or Homesteader or Crunchy or Minimalist or whatever the kids are calling it these days.

So she’s just not even going to try.

It’s because there are keyboard warriors out there that are quick to judge and tell anyone who will bite what the precise definition is of someone living the simple life. And how it’s not you because basically, you’re not them.

It’s because I want us to be real about homesteading.

I want us to be real about the fact that this isn’t 100 and some years ago and some things are just different.

And it’s okay.

Stop. Right. Now.

Attention homesteaders: the simple life is meant to inspire, relax, and clarify our existence. The simple life was never meant to make us its slave. 

Stop feeling guilty that you can’t do everything. Stop it.

Seriously, no guilt. It’s not a contest. Do what you can…and be okay with whatever that is.

You might have time to grow tomatoes on your front step…but not have time to bake 15 loaves of bread a week. It’s okay.

You might have the space to raise 4 chickens…not 40. It’s okay.

Attention homesteaders: the simple life is meant to inspire, relax, and clarify our existence. The simple life was never meant to make us its slave. 

You might have kids who can make a mean homemade chicken noodle soup…but also are experts at video games. It’s okay.

You might study the simple life and homesteading…by watching YouTube videos. It’s okay.

You might cut your own wood and know how to sew your own clothes. And you also might still enjoy, from time to time, a really good cup of coffee at a local coffeehouse. It’s okay.

Attention homesteaders: the simple life is meant to inspire, relax, and clarify our existence. The simple life was never meant to make us its slave. 

There is a balance to find between modern and old-fashioned, simple and…not.

This does not have to be all or nothing.

In your quest to break the chains of slavery to technology and “modern life”, please make sure you’re not becoming a slave to simple instead.

Attention homesteaders: the simple life is meant to inspire, relax, and clarify our existence. The simple life was never meant to make us its slave. 

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28 thoughts on “The Simple Life: Don’t Be Its Slave”

  • I actually do "have" to put my clothes on the line year round. My electric bill will be horribly high, and we can't be a "slave" to bills for utilities. As for the rest, I choose it. Home grown anything contains no chemicals. It's more work, but a healthier life. As for more electronics, such as tablets, kindles, ipods, etc…those are luxury items, and I can live without them. Kids however, will have another story.

  • It's true that we are different. I have changed a lot over the past two years and love it. Truth be told, I couldn't and wouldn't want to live totally the way they did. And I am sure they wouldn't of minded some of our conveniences.

  • Ah, how wise you are! I know we personally sometimes get way too caught up in trying to save time, money or energy by doing it the "simple" way . . . when in the long run that doesn't always work. (But it always takes our time that perhaps we could more wisely use for something totally out-of-the-box . . . like recreation now and then. Or time for ourselves. Or maybe just catching up on sleep. What a novel idea!)

    Good, thoughtful post, m'dear!

  • Thank you… I always feel guilty when I opt to take the "easy route" instead of the "simple route". Sometimes though, with a full time job, it's just to hard to be simple.

  • Fantastically put. It's easy to go overboard with any concept and the concept of simple is what we make it. Just about any steps we take to simplify our life will improve it, no matter how small, it's still better than the alternative crazed out co-dependent life we are trying to opt out of.

  • Interesting and well written! I don't think most people want to actually go completely back more than 100 years, but just wish to get closer to our food sources and the earth from which we gather our sustenance. May I never say as I heard one say, "You should buy your meat from the store in packages so animals don't have to be hurt or killed!" ummmmm….

  • I love modern conveniences and think they are a great blessing. I love making homemade bread but glad I don't have to knead it by hand-the Kitchen Aid does that while I read farming blogs 😉
    Love your post!

  • What a good post! We are lucky in that we get to pick and choose just how "simple" we want our lives to be. Me, I don't want to give up my indoor plumbing or electric stove and oven! 😉

  • 100 years ago it was all about food, shelter and clothing and any left over time was spent at church or visiting with family. No extracurricular activities, much, it was all about living and what it took to stay alive.
    The wood stove takes a lot of work, cooking from scratch takes a lot of work, quilting takes a lot of work but I love my life and the work comes with the territory.

  • Amen!
    I so agree with you. I am a believer of balance. I used to get so disappointed in myself for not getting EVERYTHING done until I said enough is enough. I noticed I was exhausted all the time and I was teaching my kids (through my behavior) that nothing is ever enough. I didn’t want them to learn this from me. Now, I still try to do as much as I can, but I don’t fuss. If I know that a busy week is coming, I buy bread at the store. I get us pizza one night a week for $8. The kids love it, and I get a break from cooking dinner. Is it healthy? For your body, no. For your soul, heck yeah!

  • Excellent reminder for us all! I definitely get burnt out when I try to do everything and sometimes on my own blog I don’t talk about how after I canned applesauce I played video games for 2 hours 🙂

  • ..simpler doesn’t mean simple….diy, that means it’s probably MORE work for yourself…I don’t preach to my “town friends” about how I do things or that they shouldn’t do this or that….well, ‘occasionally’ I may suggest things….
    Cabin Coffee has a drive thru…I finally earned my FREE coffee…..I like hanging clothes out, but the dryer is convenient. And growing vegetables in the garden, delicious!! ..Farmers Market, no weeding evolved….love what I do…and yup, there’s a town job to pay for it….

  • Ah!!! I LOVE this post and you for saying it! ? Letting go of all the guilt and just enjoying our own version of “simple”. Thank you!

  • I completely loved reading this!! I’m always feeling like whatever I am doing is not enough and that I have to go all or nothing into a simpler/homesteading lifestyle and you just proved I don’t! I love gardening, canning and picking blueberries out of the garden with my boys and I should appreciate more what we have instead of wishing it were different. Thanks! ❤️?

  • Absolutely love this post and can relate to all the comments! I will save and read this every time I start to think….I can do it all or feeling guilty that I haven’t done all that I think I should to live the “simple” life.

  • I love being as independent in creating my own foods as is possible. I agree with you too many folks make it into a competition. The ” I milk my goats while I home school my 9 kids, while I sew with my feet” crowd sure do need to take a breath and smell the milk fat. I love that we can choose. More than that, I love you reminding us! Right as usual Amy!

  • I love the thought “is not all or nothing”. As I plan my move to my homestead, I think I am planning small and manageable steps that are right for me. I do get a lot of pressure from others….oh, you have to have cows. And pigs. And this and that. I know I can’t have all of that. and that’s okay with me… until people start telling me what to do. I love when the experienced folks, like you, give validation that it’s okay to do it my way..and to do it in small bits. Wonderful article.

  • I agree that it is all about balance. It’s great to do things the simple way, but there is nothing wrong with taking a more modern, technology-based approach to things either. I enjoy baking bread myself, but yes, there are some days where I can’t be bothered with it, or just really want that store bought loaf. Do what you want how you want to and that’s all that matters. Forget all those people that tell you it had to be done a certain way or you aren’t a true homesteader.

  • Aye, this is cool . Balance is good. Don’t much of the guilt thing too busy being happy, but I suppose resentment creeps in when there is no balance with partners.

  • Very wise words 🙂 and very true I was fortunate enough to experience some of the old ways when I was a child. My Grandparents had a farm that sustained them for many years.. So I’m VERY familiar with outhouses, chicken coops, barns, hogs, a cow and harvesting. There was a LOT of work to be done from morning till night, which I thought was ‘fun’ as a kid, but ‘temporary’ as my family lived in the city. Summers were awesome and as I got older, I would have conversations about their lives, living through the depression, the barter system used among their neighbours to make ends meet. I learned a lot, and continue to carry on many of the lessons passed down; but like you mentioned…also am able to enjoy some modern conveniences. Your site brings back a lot of wonderful memories and I enjoy reading them…thank you for sharing..

  • Oh my goodness I just about died in laughter when you said the secret is 2 bathrooms!! I feel ya there and I completely agree with you. I have been saying that having 2 bathrooms would be so very delightful!! See between my man and I we have 5 kids and sadly one bathroom…..yes ONE bathroom between 2 adults and 5 kids!!!! Are you feeling my pain here lol….and I have one question….why is it that boys just cannot hit the toilet and leave pee everywhere? I mean are they imagining they are spraying flying dragons while they pee? I’m lost here and I have asked my boys over and over again. All I get is I don’t know or the most popular one, which is it wasn’t me!! Send help please….I beg you lol

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